Divorce Doula » Friendship http://divorcedoula.me Welcome to the After Wife Thu, 21 Nov 2013 20:49:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.6.1 Splitting up the holidays doesn’t have to tear your family apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/#comments Mon, 04 Nov 2013 19:20:22 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=617 When you have children and are going through a divorce, it’s as inevitable as splitting the assets: splitting the holidays. How do you divide the holidays without tearing your family apart? When we separated in the Spring of 2010, there were several months to process (read: get depressed) and discuss (read: argue) about how we […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/feed/ 2 Until death do us part? Redefining what makes a marriage successful http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/#comments Wed, 07 Aug 2013 02:47:55 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=564 It’s that time of year…Summer time = Wedding season. In my circle it also means anniversary season.  Starting in June, my social media news feed is filled declarations of love, commitment & gratitude from one spouse to the other, thanking him/her for 10…17…29 years of wedded bliss. These postings are usually accompanied by a photo […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/feed/ 11 Lessons learned from dating after divorce & how to be happy within and without http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/#comments Sat, 13 Jul 2013 18:51:53 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=541 Not all break ups have to be devastating. In fact, they can be perfectly mature & respectful if both parties are open & honest. Shocking, but true! Story at 11! Some backstory: I was recently in a relationship with a lovely man. We were together for more than 6 months, ran together, travelled together & […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/feed/ 1 Unexpected delights: Divorce Doula nominated by vancouvermom.ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/#comments Wed, 22 May 2013 16:34:51 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=469 Well, I wasn’t expecting THAT. Less than one year after my first Divorce Doula post, I woke up to discover that I’ve been selected as one of the top 30 blogs in Vancouver by vancouvermom.com Hashtag AWESOME! As I’ve said previously I love writing this blog. It gives me an outlet for my erstwhile creative […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/feed/ 3 How I Met Your Mother: when do you introduce your kids to your new love? http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/#comments Tue, 23 Apr 2013 02:58:50 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=324 “How long should I wait before I introduce my kids to my new partner?” If I had a dime for every time I’ve been asked this question, I’d be one rich Divorce Doula! I’d probably even stop writing this cash cow of a blog, patent some cookie cutter response & then sit back to watch the […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/feed/ 4 Girl, please.You are NOT a single mom: when married women think they’re single parents. http://divorcedoula.me/girl-please-you-are-not-a-single-mom/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=girl-please-you-are-not-a-single-mom http://divorcedoula.me/girl-please-you-are-not-a-single-mom/#comments Fri, 05 Apr 2013 05:20:16 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=387 “Oh, I just can’t do it! My hubby’s away on a boys’ fishing trip this weekend and I’m a single mom. It’s just too much work.” When I hear a married woman say this, it makes me want to kick her in the baby maker. You see, I am a single mom. I am divorced. My […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/girl-please-you-are-not-a-single-mom/feed/ 15 Divorce Doula – not just for divorced people! http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-not-just-for-divorced-people/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=divorce-doula-not-just-for-divorced-people http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-not-just-for-divorced-people/#comments Tue, 26 Feb 2013 18:36:14 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=309 This past weekend, I had a chance to speak with three happily married friends who confessed that they were big Divorce Doula fans. I was a little surprised, but extremely pleased to hear how much they enjoyed my blog, because I kind of assumed that my audience consisted of mostly divorced people or those contemplating […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-not-just-for-divorced-people/feed/ 3 Co-parenting with dignity & humour. Even when your child is “particular.” http://divorcedoula.me/co-parenting-with-dignity-humour-even-when-your-child-is-an-asshole/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=co-parenting-with-dignity-humour-even-when-your-child-is-an-asshole http://divorcedoula.me/co-parenting-with-dignity-humour-even-when-your-child-is-an-asshole/#comments Thu, 07 Feb 2013 19:11:05 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=281   My ex texted me this morning after he dropped the kids off at school: “I think I’m going to start a blog.” My first response was “Oh crap. He’s going to start a Divorce Doula site for dudes. Back off, buddy!  I’m glad you’re cool with my blog about our divorce, but this is […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/co-parenting-with-dignity-humour-even-when-your-child-is-an-asshole/feed/ 1 You’ve got a friend, or do you? How friendships change during your divorce http://divorcedoula.me/thank-you-for-being-a-friend/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=thank-you-for-being-a-friend http://divorcedoula.me/thank-you-for-being-a-friend/#comments Thu, 31 Jan 2013 20:59:58 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=260 When you get divorced, you lose so much more than your spouse. Of course, many people would love to conveniently “misplace” their spouse & there were several times when I thought about leaving mine on the church steps like a box of kittens, with a “Free to Good Home” sign around his neck. But that […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/thank-you-for-being-a-friend/feed/ 10 How to ethically recycle your ex http://divorcedoula.me/how-to-ethically-recycle-your-ex/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-ethically-recycle-your-ex http://divorcedoula.me/how-to-ethically-recycle-your-ex/#comments Tue, 15 Jan 2013 19:34:12 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=234 I had a long overdue catch up with one of my favourite girlfriends, Special K, yesterday. We hadn’t properly sat down to chat in a few months, and she was a little surprised by some recent events in my normally rather uneventful life. The last time we’d spoken, I was dating a man I thought […]

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