Divorce Doula » Pamela http://divorcedoula.me Welcome to the After Wife Mon, 04 Nov 2013 19:20:22 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.6.1 Splitting up the holidays doesn’t have to tear your family apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/#comments Mon, 04 Nov 2013 19:20:22 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=617 When you have children and are going through a divorce, it’s as inevitable as splitting the assets: splitting the holidays. How do you divide the holidays without tearing your family apart? When we separated in the Spring of 2010, there were several months to process (read: get depressed) and discuss (read: argue) about how we […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/feed/ 2 I’m a single mom but I don’t want your pity http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/#comments Thu, 10 Oct 2013 18:14:40 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=606 I ran into an aquaintance the other day. A friend of a friend that I hadn’t seen in 3 or 4 years but I had always enjoyed spending time with her & her family. We chatted for a few minutes while our kids were in swim lessons &  as we were rushing to transition to […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/feed/ 6 Until death do us part? Redefining what makes a marriage successful http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/#comments Wed, 07 Aug 2013 02:47:55 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=564 It’s that time of year…Summer time = Wedding season. In my circle it also means anniversary season.  Starting in June, my social media news feed is filled declarations of love, commitment & gratitude from one spouse to the other, thanking him/her for 10…17…29 years of wedded bliss. These postings are usually accompanied by a photo […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/feed/ 11 Lessons learned from dating after divorce & how to be happy within and without http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/#comments Sat, 13 Jul 2013 18:51:53 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=541 Not all break ups have to be devastating. In fact, they can be perfectly mature & respectful if both parties are open & honest. Shocking, but true! Story at 11! Some backstory: I was recently in a relationship with a lovely man. We were together for more than 6 months, ran together, travelled together & […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/feed/ 1 Three lessons little boys learn from their moms http://divorcedoula.me/three-lessons-little-boys-learn-from-their-moms/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=three-lessons-little-boys-learn-from-their-moms http://divorcedoula.me/three-lessons-little-boys-learn-from-their-moms/#comments Fri, 21 Jun 2013 18:04:43 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=502 There was a Huffington Post article that went viral in my social media circles yesterday. It was an article about the three things that little girls need from their fathers.  As the mom of two boys, it didn’t necessarily apply to me, although I do wish my own father had read it when I was […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/three-lessons-little-boys-learn-from-their-moms/feed/ 14 Strong body, strong mind – Staying active during your divorce http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/#comments Mon, 10 Jun 2013 18:51:32 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=493 I identify as a runner and although it is my sport of choice, I also weight train. Over the years, I’ve tried a variety of sports & activities to supplement my running addiction: I’ve practiced *yawn* yoga, subjected myself to the boredom of pilates & tortured myself with Bar Method. I even tried Cross Fit […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/feed/ 3 With this ring I now dread http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=with-this-ring-i-now-dread http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/#comments Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:04:11 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=485 Like most girls, I love shiny, sparkly things: sequins, disco balls & above all else: diamonds. But what happens when one of your most prized accessories – your engagement ring – becomes a burden instead of a bauble? When my ex & I separated, I immediately took my engagement ring off  but continued to wear […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/feed/ 12 Unexpected delights: Divorce Doula nominated by vancouvermom.ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/#comments Wed, 22 May 2013 16:34:51 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=469 Well, I wasn’t expecting THAT. Less than one year after my first Divorce Doula post, I woke up to discover that I’ve been selected as one of the top 30 blogs in Vancouver by vancouvermom.com Hashtag AWESOME! As I’ve said previously I love writing this blog. It gives me an outlet for my erstwhile creative […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/feed/ 3 Small sacrifices, priceless rewards http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/#comments Sun, 05 May 2013 05:04:30 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=458 If you know me or have gotten to know me through my blog, you know that I am a runner. Running is my sport of choice, the closest thing I have to a religion, way cheaper than therapy and best of all? I get to wear pretty running shoes. For fitness, I run 3-4 times […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/feed/ 8 How I Met Your Mother: when do you introduce your kids to your new love? http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/#comments Tue, 23 Apr 2013 02:58:50 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=324 “How long should I wait before I introduce my kids to my new partner?” If I had a dime for every time I’ve been asked this question, I’d be one rich Divorce Doula! I’d probably even stop writing this cash cow of a blog, patent some cookie cutter response & then sit back to watch the […]

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