Divorce Doula » Divorce http://divorcedoula.me Welcome to the After Wife Thu, 21 Nov 2013 20:49:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.6.1 Divorce Doula does book reviews http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-does-book-reviews/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=divorce-doula-does-book-reviews http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-does-book-reviews/#comments Thu, 21 Nov 2013 20:49:05 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=638 I’m often asked for book recommendations about divorce, co-parenting and life in the after wife. I was fortunate to have found several great books during my own break-up and there is no shortage of resources currently out there.  I have a passion for books and  have always turned to them for instruction, inspiration, guidance, adventure […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/divorce-doula-does-book-reviews/feed/ 0 Splitting up the holidays doesn’t have to tear your family apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/#comments Mon, 04 Nov 2013 19:20:22 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=617 When you have children and are going through a divorce, it’s as inevitable as splitting the assets: splitting the holidays. How do you divide the holidays without tearing your family apart? When we separated in the Spring of 2010, there were several months to process (read: get depressed) and discuss (read: argue) about how we […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/splitting-up-the-holidays-doesnt-have-to-tear-your-family-apart/feed/ 2 I’m a single mom but I don’t want your pity http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/#comments Thu, 10 Oct 2013 18:14:40 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=606 I ran into an aquaintance the other day. A friend of a friend that I hadn’t seen in 3 or 4 years but I had always enjoyed spending time with her & her family. We chatted for a few minutes while our kids were in swim lessons &  as we were rushing to transition to […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/im-a-single-mom-but-i-dont-want-your-pity/feed/ 6 Until death do us part? Redefining what makes a marriage successful http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/#comments Wed, 07 Aug 2013 02:47:55 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=564 It’s that time of year…Summer time = Wedding season. In my circle it also means anniversary season.  Starting in June, my social media news feed is filled declarations of love, commitment & gratitude from one spouse to the other, thanking him/her for 10…17…29 years of wedded bliss. These postings are usually accompanied by a photo […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/happily-never-after-redefining-what-it-means-to-have-a-successful-marriage/feed/ 11 Lessons learned from dating after divorce & how to be happy within and without http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/#comments Sat, 13 Jul 2013 18:51:53 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=541 Not all break ups have to be devastating. In fact, they can be perfectly mature & respectful if both parties are open & honest. Shocking, but true! Story at 11! Some backstory: I was recently in a relationship with a lovely man. We were together for more than 6 months, ran together, travelled together & […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do-but-it-doesnt-have-to-be/feed/ 1 Strong body, strong mind – Staying active during your divorce http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/#comments Mon, 10 Jun 2013 18:51:32 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=493 I identify as a runner and although it is my sport of choice, I also weight train. Over the years, I’ve tried a variety of sports & activities to supplement my running addiction: I’ve practiced *yawn* yoga, subjected myself to the boredom of pilates & tortured myself with Bar Method. I even tried Cross Fit […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/strong-body-strong-mind-staying-active-during-your-divorce/feed/ 3 With this ring I now dread http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=with-this-ring-i-now-dread http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/#comments Mon, 03 Jun 2013 16:04:11 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=485 Like most girls, I love shiny, sparkly things: sequins, disco balls & above all else: diamonds. But what happens when one of your most prized accessories – your engagement ring – becomes a burden instead of a bauble? When my ex & I separated, I immediately took my engagement ring off  but continued to wear […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/with-this-ring-i-now-dread/feed/ 12 Unexpected delights: Divorce Doula nominated by vancouvermom.ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/#comments Wed, 22 May 2013 16:34:51 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=469 Well, I wasn’t expecting THAT. Less than one year after my first Divorce Doula post, I woke up to discover that I’ve been selected as one of the top 30 blogs in Vancouver by vancouvermom.com Hashtag AWESOME! As I’ve said previously I love writing this blog. It gives me an outlet for my erstwhile creative […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/unexpected-delights-divorce-doula-nominated-by-vancouvermom-ca/feed/ 3 Small sacrifices, priceless rewards http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/#comments Sun, 05 May 2013 05:04:30 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=458 If you know me or have gotten to know me through my blog, you know that I am a runner. Running is my sport of choice, the closest thing I have to a religion, way cheaper than therapy and best of all? I get to wear pretty running shoes. For fitness, I run 3-4 times […]

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]]> http://divorcedoula.me/small-sacrifices-priceless-rewards/feed/ 8 How I Met Your Mother: when do you introduce your kids to your new love? http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids http://divorcedoula.me/how-i-met-your-mother-introducing-the-kids/#comments Tue, 23 Apr 2013 02:58:50 +0000 Pamela http://divorcedoula.me/?p=324 “How long should I wait before I introduce my kids to my new partner?” If I had a dime for every time I’ve been asked this question, I’d be one rich Divorce Doula! I’d probably even stop writing this cash cow of a blog, patent some cookie cutter response & then sit back to watch the […]

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