Comments on: The world’s best ex-husband

By: Pamela

Pamela — Sat, 06 Dec 2014 19:44:15 +0000

Thank you, Cea! xo

By: Cea Person

Cea Person — Sat, 25 Oct 2014 00:44:56 +0000

You are making wonderful memories for your boys by doing this–I commend you for putting them first, above everything!!

By: Pamela

Pamela — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 18:52:30 +0000

Hi Sarah – it sounds like you & your ex are off to a very strong start to co-parenting. Putting the needs of your children ahead of your respective egos is tantamount to successful co-parenting. Take your time getting comfortable in your new situation. One thing that I’ve learned is that change can be uncomfortable – painful, even – but it will eventually feel right. Stay in touch & stay strong! xo

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 19 Jun 2013 05:30:44 +0000

Thank you for this post (and your whole blog). My husband and I are at the very early stages of separating. We’ve been together almost 20 years and have 2 young children together. We still love and respect each other and only want what’s best for each other and our children. Since we’ve been together so long it will take time for us to adjust to this new change, just as it will take time for our children to adjust. We both picture a future where we can spend school events and holidays together. It’s so refreshing to hear others make it work, it gives me the confidence to know I can too.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 21 May 2013 04:00:58 +0000

What a wonderful relationship you have built with your ex Lola. And I say “built” because I know that these things don’t just happen by chance; they are work. The piece of advice that I carry with me everywhere is that the children you have with your ex are 1/2 you, 1/2 your ex. When you speak ill of your ex in front of your children ie. “your dad is a loser” you are also insulting your children. I love your last line: Their parents might be divorced, but we are still a family.” Thank you so much for sharing your story. /P.

By: Lola

Lola — Mon, 20 May 2013 19:23:26 +0000

Most of my friends and family can’t believe the relationship I have with my children’s father – we even live in the same townhouse complex. Like most people, we likely screwed up a few things during our split, but one thing we got right was that we agreed NEVER to say negative things about the other parent in front of our children. We went through a rough couple of years, but then things got much easier.

Now we attend all their concerts and events together and he is often invited to dinner. He’ll fix the odd thing around my house and I’ll bake him his favourite cookies at Christmas. He was even invited to my extended family’s Easter dinner when we found out he didn’t have any plans. We make our parenting decisions together and our kids know they can’t play us against one another.

It obviously takes two willing parties to make this type of easy relationship possible, but for us, it was our way of trying to lessen the effect of our divorce on our children. Their parents might be divorced, but we are still a family.